Maybe the definition the Duchess of Sussex uses to define what feminism means to her does not say that getting married for love amounts to being a non-feminist.
Any woman who does not live her life like a used and abused doormat has her own definition of what it means to be a feminist. Yes, I know that there is one popular definition that dangerously borders on female supremacy and unnecessary male-bashing. I’ll not go there. But this is not the definition that everyone has accepted.
For some women, feminism means gender equality. For some, it means freedom of choice. For some, it means to have the right to live their life on their own terms. For some, it means not to do anything that ‘stinks’ of patriarchy.
So it’s different for each one of us. The Duchess of Sussex is a sensible woman. She was raised in a modern world and encouraged to have a mind of her own… to make her own decisions in life. She was not a dreamy 16 year old with stars in her eyes and waiting for her prince charming to turn up on a white horse. For her, Prince Harry was the man she fell in love with. And that is what is most important.
Yes, she has (probably) made a sacrifice of her commoner life when she said Yes to him. But come to think of it, she wasn’t really a commoner in the strictest sense of the word when they became an official couple. She was already a known face in many circles and was rubbing shoulders with several bigwigs from the entertainment industry. It’s not like she had an enormous change of lifestyle post marriage… like how the Duchess of Cambridge had, for instance.
The Duchess of Sussex was used to being in the limelight as an actress. She just continues to be in the limelight as royalty. No major shift of worlds has happened here. In fact, she has gelled in quite well with the royal way of life a lot more than the Duchess of Cambridge did at the same stage after her wedding to Prince William, I daresay.
The Duke and Duchess of Sussex are very much, very evidently and very deeply in love with each other. When two people have indeed found true love in each other, then all other sounds and disturbances are silenced out.
The Duchess has been regrettably plagued incessantly with her family’s melodramatic tirades against her since months now. She has been subjected to several hurtful racist comments on social media. She has been criticized for what certain social media fashion gurus deem to be the tiniest of fashion follies. She has been called rude names. Every one of her actions has been cross questioned as to how it resonates with her open declaration that she is a feminist. Even something as trivial as her wearing pantyhose for a royal function, for God’s sake!
How do you think she has been able to brave them all without faltering? The bond she shares with her husband is strong enough to bear it all. Nothing affects her and she maintains a dignified silence to every accusing finger pointing at her. All this negativity falls flat in the face of the love and respect the Duke and Duchess have for each other.
Like I said, love conquers all. And even feminists can fall head over heels in love when they meet the right person. Falling in love and being a feminist are not mutually exclusive. I think people ought to stop picking on her and just try to be happy for their happiness.